How does 52 People fit into what Driven by Passion does? Although this experiment took place prior to the development of the Super-Hero Concept, I believe it illustrates one of the greatest super powers every individual on this planet has; the ability to connect authentically with others at any moment, in any place. This is a gift that we all possess in equal sums. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, I encourage you to read on… you’ll find that the greatest super powers we possess are so easily accessed.
What is 52 people? A social experiment searching for meaningfulness.
Ok, let me explain a little more.
My best friend left this world a stranger to me. He fought cancer for over five years and I was along his side for the struggle between remission and relapse before he succumbed to the disease. I spent many of my waking moments with him, but held deep regret after he passed on because I never really knew him. We stuck to the surface of our conversations because it was safe. I felt my job as his best friend was to shelter him from the reality of his sickness. I thought we could coast along happily avoiding any conversation that might cause emotional discomfort. The most painful thing about losing him was my realization that I never really knew him. I mean REALLY knew him.
How many of you REALLY know the people closest to you?
Until I started researching and developing this blog, I have to be honest, I had no idea as to the depth of my parents, siblings, and friends and what makes them truly tick. That is until I asked them my 10 questions.
We spend so much time with these people but for some reason we rarely stop to listen to what they want from life or what drives their anger or sadness, or we never ask. To complicate things, the proliferation of networking tools like facebook, or myspace have almost made the phone call or face to face conversation obsolete. So, 52 people is an experiment, it is a challenge, and hopefully a demonstration that can inspire people to have more meaningful relationships.
The premise of 52 people is as follows:
In a world of electronic relationships, how willing will someone be to sit down with a complete stranger and answer 10 insightful questions.
I will approach complete strangers (one per week) in attempt to ask them 10 questions. The blog entries will be the adventures of the ensuing rejection and connection.
I hope I can connect with 52 people and inspire them to connect with the people in their lives. I hope this inspires the visitors to this blog to ask these questions and have meaningful conversations with their loved ones. I also expect to stretch myself, challenge myself to approach as many different people to get many different answers.
These aren’t the only questions to ask in order to get meaningful answers. I do like these questions because they are simple, yet force the recipient to look deep inside, quite often to places they have wandered far from, or have never been. Some of these are questions coaches may use early on and during a coaching relationship.
1. If you could create your dream job what would it be?
2. What fullfills you?
3. What is your greatest fear?
4. What do you want more of in your life?
5. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
6. What makes you sad?
7. What is the most difficult thing you’ve ever experienced?
8. What is great about you?
9. Who are you?
10. What question do you want me to ask you now?
I end with:
Will you be willing to ask the people in your life these same questions?
I am excited about this experiment and hope you find inspiration and enjoyment while spending the next 52 weeks with me on this journey. Feel free to offer suggestions or send me feedback, or better yet let me know about the answers you get from your loved ones.
Meaningful relationships are developed by having meaningful conversations. Start with these questions and let the conversation go from there. Don’t let the people closest to you leave the world as strangers, ask the questions and listen for the answers…
Check back on Monday for my first connection!